Q: Are you saying "yes" to every date you get asked out on?
A: I'm not desperate. I'm just trying to get myself out of a dating slump. I think I've focused on so many other things in my life and said "yes" to so many other things that it is time to focus on my personal and dating life. I'm not going to rearrange my schedule to fit a date into it or get rid of other fulfilling activities in my life so I can date more. Therefore, I am going to say "no" to some dates because this is something I want to add to the life I have now... not something I want to completely center my life around.
Q: Will you really go out with anyone at least once?
A: I want to get rid of expectations or a list of requirements I've had in the past to date guys. Not because I don't think it is good to have standards, but because maybe there is someone great out there that doesn't fit what I think is great and I need to redefine what great looks like. I think everyone deserves at least one chance, but I also want to be safe and smart about the whole situation. I'm not going to date someone who I discern I may be unsafe with and I will always meet in highly public places for first dates. I also refuse to go on dates with men who are looking to see if we have a connection so we can establish a "NSA intimate relationship"... I am not now nor will I ever be some guys "booty call."
Q: Do you have to go on 29 dates with 29 different guys?
A: No Way! If I meet a guy I hit it off with and he wants to go on a second date, I'm going on a second date and I'm counting it as one of the 29. As I mentioned in the first answer, I don't want to limit myself by setting my requirements list too high, but I also don't want to hinder myself by telling someone I might really like that I have to go on twenty some more dates before we can go out again.
Remember this is just dating, although ultimately I still want to find a great match and life partner this is just part of the process or the first steps down the road to doing so.
I'm enjoying reading your comments and hearing about all the good and bad dating stories you have all had too. Thanks for the encouragement!
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